Show me your friends and I'll show you your future. You're the whatever of the five friends you spent like. That's real. If you're trying to get your life together and your friends get in the way, that's actually real useful for you, because you've now identified who your friends aren't. Success and personal growth- two concepts we all aspire to, but what shapes, do you suspect, in our lives? It's the company we keep from the great minds like Jim Rohn or provinri and many others. We've been told about the importance of choosing our friends wisely. As James Clear from the atomic habit says, your culture sets your expectation for what's normal. Like many of you, I once had a large circle of friends. We would do all kinds of crazy things, had fun and simply enjoyed our youth. The world seemed to be our playground and there were no real responsibilities. But as life would have it, everything changed with the Advent of lockdown covet the World As We Knew. It came to a standstill and so did our lives. But for me it was more than just a pose in a fast-paced existence. It was a moment of Awakening. The lockdown came as my personal life was undergoing a significant shift. My dad lost his job and I was faced with the daunting Prospect of stepping up and taking control. It was during this time that I realized I couldn't continue living the way I had. I needed to evolve, to grow and to be better. So I embraced, changed. I got in shape, fixed my sleep and diet, reduced alcohol consumption to bare minimand dedicated each day to learning new skills and improving myself. I also made significant strides in my financial life, starting to make more than 10K and eventually 20K- 30k per month. As I joined on this path of self-improvement, I noticed a shift in my relationships. My friends who were still happily enjoying their Carefree life couldn't relate to my newfound focus on personal growth and development. My desire here for deep, meaningful conversations was at odds with their inclination for shallow Chit Chat party banter. Their interests lay in parties and hookups, where I found solace in books and self-education. As the time passed, the Divide widened. I found myself increasingly unable to engage with them on a level that was meaningful to me, and slowly I found myself withdrawing from my circle of friends. They too started to noticing my absence and stopped inviting me. The result was a deep sense of loneliness. But with loneliness came a deep self-realization. I realized that real friends aren't those who would rather see you stagnant so they can feel comfortable. Real friends are those who motivate you, inspire you, challenge you to become the best version of yourself. Show more
They are your teammates in the Journey of life, and when life throws curveballs at you, they stand by your side, not away from it. Real friends aren't the ones refer you to remain stagnant just so they can reveal in their comfort zones. They're not the ones who cheer for your failures or watch silently as you drown in self-doubt. No, that's not what a real friend is about. This understanding shake me to my core. It downed me that if I wanted to be surrounded by such passportive, inspiring, loving friends, I needed to become that person myself first. This change needed to begin with me. In our digital world today, where we are more connected yet more isolated than ever before, somehow it's common to hear about toxic friendships. Social media platforms are bombarded with posts and discussions about this issue, but Emma's all the noise and blame? We sometimes fail to look at ourselves, RV ourselves a good friend. Building authentic, genuine friendships is about more than just shared interests or regular Hangouts. It's about taking initiative. It's about showing genuine interest in the lives of others, making an effort to understand their thoughts and emotions, ensuring that they feel heard and offering your support even when it's inconvenient. It involves a level of selflessness that is sometimes challenging but always rewarding. In my journey, I decided to be the one to make the first move. I took the plunge, extended my hand first, opened my heart, and the results have been astounding. Today, I'm fortunate to be surrounded by friends who not only understand me but also inspire me. They're my confidence, my motivators, my inspiration, my Cheerleaders. Be the friend you wish to have. Show more
It was always easy, but it's an end of our worth embarking on. Good things are never easy. You have the power to inspire, to support and to love. Use it and watch as your life fills with the kind of friendships that nurture your soul and push you to grow. Now let's delve into something fundamentally essential, which is our environment. Show more
Much like the water determines how a fish swims and survives, the people we surround ourselves with have a profound influence on our attitudes, our behave, behaviors and, ultimately, who we become. James clear, the author of the book Atomic habits, provides some invaluable insights into this. He says: surround yourself with people who have the habits you want to have yourself. Show more
You will rise together. Nothing sustains motivation better than belonging to the tribe. It transforms a personal Quest into a shared one. Previously, you were on your own. You don't have to be the victim of your environment. You can also be the architect of it. This thought is simple, yet incredibly powerful, and it changed how, I think, the habits and behaviors of the people around us Rob off on us For Better or For Worse. There is an immense power in belonging to a group that shares your aspirations and values. It's not just about individual quests anymore, but a shared Mission. This Collective Drive doesn't just sustain motivation, it amplifies it. Take a moment and consider the people you surround yourself with. Show more
Are they people lacking the ambition to strive for more? Are they people that there are making excuses all the time? Or are they individuals who are constantly pushing their boundaries, exploring new ideas and striving for personal and professional growth? The difference between these two environments is Stark, and it can significantly impact your mindset and actions. If you find yourself surrounded by people who are lazy, it's easy to fall into the Trap of settling for Less. Show more
Their lack of ambition can subtly seep into your subconscious, encouraging you to remain within your comfort zone, to stop striving for more. This is not the environment that breeds growth and success. Contrast this with the circle of friends who are Relentless in their pursuit of self-improvement. These are individuals who challenge themselves for continually learning, evolving and pushing their boundaries. When you surround yourself with such people, their drive and ambition are contagious. You too will find yourself inspired to push posture limitations, to strive for growth and Excellence. So take charge of your environment. Choose to surround yourself people who who inspire you, challenge you and help you grow. Remember you're the architect of your life. Design it in a way that fuels your growth and success, not stops IT. Recognizing toxic friends is not always easy. Show more
They might not appear harmful at first glance, but some signs give them away. They might get jealous when you succeed, might not be there for you in times of Crisis, or maybe excessively self-centered. Toxic friends May indulge in constant gossip, turning their attention to others lives instead of focusing on their own growth. One of the most glaring red flags in a toxic relationships is when someone starts playing with your insecurities. I mean, we all have areas of self-doubt. That's a part of being a human. But a true friend, a genuine friend, would help you overcome these insecurities. Now use them as a weapon against you. A toxic friend, on the other hand, will constantly point out your flaws, not to help you to improve, but to belittle you. Therefore, use your insecurities over you to over your self-esteem. This can take many forms, like from casual, supposedly joking remarks that always seem to hit where it hurts to more direct criticism aimed at making you feel inferior. Why do they do this? It's often because they don't want you to be confident. Your confidence, your self-assuredness, your growth: these are mirrors that reflect back their own insecurities and their own lack of growth. Show more
Instead of working on improving themselves, they find it easier to try and bring you down. Friends like these can drain your energy, chip away at your self-esteem and, ultimately, hold you back from reaching your true potential. That's why it's crucially important to be choosy about the company you keep. The friends you choose should add to your life, not subtract from it. So how do you choose the right friend? Show more
Start by surrounding yourself with people you genuinely admire. These could be individuals who have achieved goals similar to yours, who share your values or exemplify qualities you strive to cultivate in yourself. Being around such individuals can Inspire to strive for more. It's not just about taking, though. Shrive brings value to people around you. It's not like always me, me, me, me. You also need to give something. Friendships are two-way street. If you're in a friendship to get something out of it, you're in it for the wrong reason. You're the toxic friend. Be a good listener or for help when you can be supportive and be there for your friends just as you would want them to be there for you. Show more
Finally, adopt a can-do attitude. This is a belief that if someone else can achieve something, you can do it too. If thousand could do it, so can I. Such an attitude can be incredibly empowering. This isn't about blind optimism, but about faith in your capabilities, about the belief that with effort and preservance, you can overcome challenges and reach your goals. So remember, it's okay to walk away from friends who bring negativity into your life. You deserve friends who respect you, inspire you and support you. If you're that type of a friend, of course, choose your friends wisely, because the company you keep can shape your life. Real friendships isn't about remaining comfortable, always staying in the same comfortable Groove where we feel safe and unchallenged in our comfort zone. The essence of true friendships is far more than far more complex. Actually, it's about standing alongside each other and pushing one another towards growth and Improvement. It's about being each other's constructive critic and biggest cheerleaders at the same time. Show more
If I see my friends getting lazy, not reaching their full potential, it's my duty as a friend to tell them. I'm not going to hide it to myself. I will tell them because I believe if I'm staying in my comfort zone, if I'm not growing enough, if I'm stuck in the same place, they will do the same thing. I would want them to be the voice of reason, to challenge me, to push me harder, to make me rethink my Approach. Seeking friends who offer different weave points and perspectives is the key to personal growth. Remember, if all your friends think exactly like you, your learning will be stagnant. You'll be called an Eco chamber of similar thoughts and ideas, which does a little for your intellectual growth. It's the Clashing of different perspectives, the challenge of different viewpoints, that Sparks Innovation and growth. Remember, it's okay to say no to people. Not everyone you meet is going to be your friend, and that's fine, because you should be selective about your friends. When it comes to friendships, remember it's quality over quantity, and also building friendships takes quite a lot of time. Show more
So if you have a bunch of close friends, a bunch of real friends. You either spend too much time on your friends rather than focusing on yourself or you're not spending enough time with individual of them, because spending quality time takes a lot of time and effort and we all have limited time in this world. Also understand that friendships, much like life itself, evolve just as we change and grow. Show more
So do our relationships. Different stages of life might offer different friendships and some might fade away. This isn't something to fear or resist. It's just something natural and something you should embrace. Change is part of life, in growth with the essence of our existence. For the last message I want to share is that Embrace a challenge of growth, the discomfort of change, both in your life and in your friendships. Show more
Be the architect of your life, push your limits and grow as a person. Nothing good is easy. It's always going to be hard, but that's why it's so meaningful. Remember true friendships isn't about Comfort, it's about growth. I hope this video provided you some insights from the lessons that I learned in the past couple of years, and see you next time. Show more
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